This is the 5th edition of the Proactive Twelve Steps. It is an alternative version of the Twelve Steps, without God. It is not just for atheists and agnostics, but for everybody who wants to make sense of how change happens. Click on the link under each step for commentary.
There is a big gap between what I do and how I want to be. My life is spinning out of control.
See: Commentary on Step 1
To get a grip, I need to find a gentle and open way to be with myself.
See: Commentary on Step 2
To find myself, moment by moment, I take a mindful pause.
See: Commentary on Step 3
I look at my life systematically, to see patterns in how I have been relating to people and situations.
See: Commentary on Step 4
I look at my behavior patterns with compassion, to understand the emotional logic behind them.
See: Commentary on Step 5
I see how my behavior patterns have been ways of coping with what feels overwhelming.
See: Commentary on Step 6
I learn to accept the sense of vulnerability that comes from facing what feels overwhelming.
See: Commentary on Step 7
I explore alternative behaviors and rehearse them in safe settings.
See: Commentary on Step 8
I apply these new mindful behaviors in my everyday life.
See: Commentary on Step 9
I keep paying attention to the causes and effects of my actions, and act accordingly.
I keep facing reality mindfully, moment by moment, with a mindful pause.
My life reflects a growing sense of respect and compassion for myself and others.